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Most marriage advice is recycled fluff.
This is not that.
I sat down with Dr. John Gottman, the man who has spent 40+ years studying what actually makes marriages work and what destroys them.
Not opinions. Not theories. Exposed-to-thousands-of-couples-in-a-research-lab findings.
And what he told me?
Some of it will surprise you.
The couples who last, the ”masters,” aren't the ones who avoid conflict. They're the ones who lean into it without getting defensive. They stay curious instead of critical. They treat their spouse's complaints like information, not attacks.
One man in his study actually helped his wife figure out exactly what about him made her the most angry. Non-defensive. Just listening.
That's the standard.
We also got into the stuff nobody talks about openly. Why most couples are embarrassed to discuss sex. Why compatibility is actually a myth. What commitment really looks like on a Tuesday morning when you're frustrated. And how the way you respond to ”no” in the bedroom determines everything.
Dr. Gottman told me that after 35 years of marriage, he still looks forward to talking to his wife at breakfast every single morning.
If your marriage feels disconnected, boring, or like you're roommates, this conversation will show you why. And more importantly, what the research says you can do about it.
This is one of my favorite interviews I've ever done.
I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.
The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of ”fine.”
We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.
If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.
New episodes every Tuesday.
Don't just exist. Show up.
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What are the PIES of Attraction?
P is for Physical Attraction
I is for Intellectual Attraction
E is for Emotional Attraction
S is for Spiritual Attraction
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I want to help you become the best that you can be Physically, Intellectually, Emotionally, and Spiritually.
For the past 5 years, I have helped thousands of people transform their lives, overcome tough situations, and choose to focus on what they can control – their PIES. And they have seen amazing results.
Weight lost, college degrees earned, relationships restored, and faith found. You can do this, too. Let me help.
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