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Ever feel like you've become the unofficial therapist in your friend group? You're not alone, and I've been there too. Most of us make one critical mistake when someone comes to us with a problem: we try to fix it.
In this episode, I sit down with licensed professional counselor Meredith Ball (LPC) to talk about how to actually support the people in your life without overstepping, shutting them down, or burning yourself out. Meredith helped me see some things about my own listening habits that I honestly needed to hear, especially how growing up in a conservative church environment shaped the way I respond when people come to me with their struggles.
In this episode, we cover:
How to listen without jumping into fix-it mode, what to do when a friend is clearly making a bad decision, when and how to have a moral confrontation with someone you love, the one thing that keeps most of us from truly hearing another person, how to support a friend who's thinking about leaving their marriage, why ”do whatever makes you happy” might be the worst advice you can give, what ”doing the work” actually means, and the truth about whether AI and ChatGPT can replace real human connection.
Meredith Ball is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Marriage Helper Certified Coach who specializes in helping individuals and couples navigate difficult relational dynamics.
📖 Book mentioned: The Lost Art of Listening by Michael Nichols and Martha Straus
Here's what I took away from this conversation: everything is endurable, learning to set your emotions to the side so you can stay present with someone is a game changer, and how you show up for the people in your life starts with the work you're doing on yourself.
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I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.
The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of ”fine.”
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What are the PIES of Attraction?
P is for Physical Attraction
I is for Intellectual Attraction
E is for Emotional Attraction
S is for Spiritual Attraction
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I want to help you become the best that you can be Physically, Intellectually, Emotionally, and Spiritually.
For the past 5 years, I have helped thousands of people transform their lives, overcome tough situations, and choose to focus on what they can control – their PIES. And they have seen amazing results.
Weight lost, college degrees earned, relationships restored, and faith found. You can do this, too. Let me help.
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