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”I don't even know who I am anymore.”
I heard it over and over in a coaching lab a few weeks ago, and it broke my heart. Different people. Different stories. Same sentence.
You didn't lose yourself overnight. You gave yourself away one yes at a time. To a marriage. To a family. To a career. To everyone who told you who you were supposed to be.
And then one morning you woke up and couldn't find yourself anywhere in it.
I've been there.
A few years ago I took a four month sabbatical. Deleted the email apps. Deleted Slack. Stopped working entirely. And the first thing I felt wasn't peace. It was terror. Because my biggest fear was that everything would be fine without me.
Then my pastor asked a question that wrecked me: Who were you before the world told you different?
In this episode I share what happened when I actually sat with that question. The 10 minute journaling practice that broke it open. The thought that broke through. The book that changed everything. And the vision God gave me that I never would have found if I hadn't stopped.
If you feel lost right now, this one's for you.
Also in this episode:
Solving Marriage Mysteries. Three of your questions answered. Is 16 months too long to save a marriage. What to do when your spouse says he's done but still says he loves you. And what a husband should do when he finally wakes up and she's already checked out.
Study Scripture With Me. John 3:25-30. John the Baptist knew exactly who he was and exactly who he wasn't, and his joy was complete either way.
Unpopular Opinions. Why life isn't about being happy. Why physical attraction has almost nothing to do with how you look. And why almost no one is a narcissist and everyone is a narcissist.
Ask and it will be given to you. Seek and you will find. Knock and the door will be opened.
Be persistent. God is a Father who gives good gifts.
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Until next week, stay strong.
I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.
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What are the PIES of Attraction?

P is for Physical Attraction

I is for Intellectual Attraction

E is for Emotional Attraction

S is for Spiritual Attraction
